The blessing of Siblings!

I know my youngest, Ian, was given to me for a reason!Lately he as been “fighting” with Amor and forgetting that she still has special needs. I explained the importance of helping her get to recovery by simply making her happy. Amor has heightened sensory issues, which gets worse with environmental or emotional stimulation. Simply getting her to a happy, comfortable mode, puts down her defences and helps her to function regularly. Continuous happy situations, helps her build and grow helpful/functional Brainhighways.
Here’s our plan:
When Amor is irritable, Ian has to remember that she is being like that, not to make others mad, but because of her special needs/prematurity. Telling her to stop it, criticising her, or yelling at her (which are some of the options Ian has been doing lately) does not help her at all. While dealing with Amor, checking our emotions, and choosing to be happy will help her get back to a happier disposition. So when the situation pops up again, I can remind Ian of our plan to choose a happier disposition. I asked him what code word we can use so it will be easier to remind him. I suggested “happy voice please”, Ian said he wanted to use “Plan H” as in “H” for happy. Excellent choice!
Since it was such as good plan, I decided to push it further and ask Ian to help me in another situation: At the playground, no body really likes playing with Amor because she grabs toys or is trigger happy with her words. I also told Ian that he was so fantastic at making friends and in fact has super powers because he gets many friends (and adults) to follow his games. He can use his super powers to demonstrate to other children how to be kind to Amor, how to be patient with her and how to play with her. Children only need examples to follow, to bring out the kindness in them. To remind him is his role, we chose “Super Hero H” as our code word 😀
We’re looking forward to our next challenge and I believe Ian will be a fantastic super hero and super brother to Amor.

  

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